What to do when sexual pleasure becomes pain ?

Sex is one of the most pleasurable activities that people can enjoy. However, sometimes it can generate feelings that make pleasure a nightmare. Do you have pain during intercourse? Stop hiding the truth because it is neither your fault nor is there nothing to be ashamed of. Many people do the same thing and it also happens to you, so let's talk about the causes of these annoyances and what you can do to make them disappear.

We are accustomed to hearing what is pleasurable sex and the importance of having a good and healthy sexual activity. All that is true, and if you have the necessary care to prevent sexually transmitted diseases, can reap many benefits for your physical and emotional health, as I have explained in other articles.

However, not all are lucky enough to enjoy both in privacy. Many women (and some men) feel discomfort and pain before, during or after penetration. Is this normal? We could say yes, at least happens more often than you might think and you should not be ashamed to talk about this subject, or with your partner or with a specialist who can help you determine the cause of your pain and fight it.

According to a national survey developed by the research team of the Center for the Advancement of Sexual Health at the University of Indiana, in the United States, which took into account the views of nearly six thousand men and women between 14 and 94 years old for 20 years, the number of women who acknowledges having pain during sex reaches 30 percent, and 5 percent of men also states that suffer from this problem.

Why pain occurs just at the time? The causes of this malaise, which is known as dyspareunia , can be varied. Between them:

• Certain positions during intercourse,

• Allergic reaction to some form of contraception, such as spermicides or latex condoms is manufactured some or a diaphragm that is not good.

• Genital irritation, which may be caused by the use of tampons, soaps, detergents, douches or hygiene products.

• Inflammation or infection in the area can be urinary, vaginal or fallopian tubes.

• Injuries caused by herpes , by genital warts or other infections or sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) .

• Having sex too soon after surgery or childbirth.

• Use of certain medications, including some antidepressants and some contraceptives.

• Vaginal dryness or have little lubrication, which can be caused by lack of stimulation or foreplay or hormonal changes, especially after menopause .

• Other health conditions such as menopause, uterine prolapse , the uterus in retroversion (an anatomical condition that causes the uterus is slightly tilted backwards), ovarian cysts , a herpes infection or the presence of hemorrhoids , endometriosis , inflammation prostate or vaginismus (which is an involuntary spasm of the muscles around the vagina, making it closes).

• Emotional and psychological factors, such as whether the person has been a victim of sexual abuse or rape .

If you feel pain or discomfort during sex, do not stay silent and say it. Talk to your partner and your doctor to solve the problem and regain the magic of your sexual, emotional life and also a bit of your self-esteem.

There are different treatments to remove the pain during penetration, which will depend on the cause. Also, there are some things you can start practicing in private, that help solve this problem. Between them:

• Use a lubricant . The water - soluble lubricants are a good choice if you have vaginal irritation or sensitivity, while silicone tend to last longer and be more slippery than water - soluble lubricants. Do not use Vaseline, baby oil or mineral oil when using condoms because they can dissolve the latex and cause the condom to break.

• Schedule time for sex and find the time neither tired or anxious.

• Talk to your partner, tell where and when you feel pain and which positions and activities you are more pleasurable.

• Try activities that do not cause pain. For example, if you feel it during intercourse, you can practice oral sex or mutual masturbation. They can also engage in sensual but not sexual activities such as massage.

• To relieve burning after intercourse, you can apply ice or frozen gel pack wrapped in a small towel.

If pain persists, do not neglect and check with a specialist who can determine the cause and treat it properly. This will avoid major problems and will regain the pleasure in privacy.